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HOPE IS FRAGILE; FEAR IS POWERFUL by Libby Cataldi

A mother wrote to me: I’m giving up on prayer, I’m afraid. Recovery was going well, I thought. My son was making meetings, new job he likes, nice girlfriend. I was beginning to trust and hope. In the last week, money taken from … Continue reading

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THE CONFOUNDING NATURE OF ADDICTION

Dr. MacAfee told me, When families are in the throes of struggling with addiction, they do what they know best: They help and support the addict. Families, however, do not anticipate that the nature of addiction is one of exploitation, … Continue reading

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“IT NEVER STOPS HURTING” 

My reflection: My prayer is simple: may this entry bring comfort to another mom or dad, brother or sister. Today’s Promise to consider: We must join our voices into the resounding chorus that clamors for help for our addicted loved … Continue reading

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HONESTY IS IMPERATIVE

This is part of a series of monthly posts that reference many conversations with Dr. MacAfee. Thanks, Doc. A client and friend of Dr. MacAfee, the mother of a recovering addict wrote to me: One of the most important lessons … Continue reading

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“I COULDN’T HELP HIM BEFORE IT WAS TOO LATE”

A mother wrote to me: My son died of a heroin overdose. I need to start to forgive myself for all the mistakes I made. I try to understand why he couldn’t just stop what he was doing to himself. … Continue reading

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CUNNING, BAFFLING AND POWERFUL

Terry Gorski writes, Addiction comes into our lives posing as a friend and then slowly grows into a monster that can destroy us. (Terry Gorski, Straight Talk About Addiction) My reflection: I was deluded by addiction. It entered our home … Continue reading

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THE POWER OF COMMUNITY IN RECOVERY

Jeff and I talked about what helps people stay in recovery and he said, Getting sober is just the beginning; learning to live in abstinence is the goal. As human beings, we have a hunger to be seen and to … Continue reading

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“MY MOM FINALLY SAW ME AS HER SON AGAIN”

  A young man in recovery wrote to me: About two weeks after my mom finished reading your book, she and I had an unbelievable conversation. She told me that reading the book was very difficult for her at times, … Continue reading

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THE SHAME ISOLATES US

THE SHAME ISOLATES US Libby Cataldi This is part of a series of monthly posts that reference many conversations with Dr. MacAfee. Thanks, Doc. A dear friend of mine and Dr MacAfee’s, a mother of a recovering addict, wrote to … Continue reading

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SOMETIMES EVEN DEATH ISN’T A DETERRENT

  A recovering addict told me: Dying didn’t matter. I couldn’t have been any worse off than I was, but I definitely didn’t fear death. If you die, that’s sort of a blessing. I was raised Catholic, but suicide didn’t … Continue reading

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