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Suffering Is Optional

  From Hope for Today, January 30: “The alcoholic was obsessed with alcohol, and I was obsessed with the alcoholic. I watched, monitored, controlled, and exercised my need to feel hurt. I felt self-pity, embarrassment, superiority, resentment, and anger. All … Continue reading

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“I COULDN’T HELP HIM BEFORE IT WAS TOO LATE”

A mother wrote to me: My son died of a heroin overdose. I need to start to forgive myself for all the mistakes I made. I try to understand why he couldn’t just stop what he was doing to himself. … Continue reading

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From Darkness Into Light

A mother wrote me recently: “Your memoir has released me from my shame.. Reading your recovery story has shown me how, in spite of everything bad that’s happening now, I can get on with my life and learn to be … Continue reading

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Crying is Okay Here

A child has died. Not my child, but the child of a friend. Technically, he was no longer a child. But still, he was her child. She was supposed to have her child forever. Except forever didn’t last. I didn’t … Continue reading

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Lighten Up! Do We Still Know How To Laugh?

From Courage to Change, March 13: “I’m apt to think of Step Seven—‘Humbly asked him to remove our shortcomings’–as a step I take tearfully and on my knees. I’ve had that experience, but I want to entertain the possibility that … Continue reading

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Sitting with Grief and Hope

So many people in my circle will say in anger “They will never know how it feels until it happens to them!” We are talking about the loss of our loved ones to addiction, the struggle that we had fighting … Continue reading

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The Journey

How much have we lost in this madness of helping our loved ones? Distant memories of old friendships, good jobs we enjoyed, family members who didn’t understand how we could keep loving, and relationships broken beyond repair. Most of all many of us … Continue reading

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CUNNING, BAFFLING AND POWERFUL

Terry Gorski writes, Addiction comes into our lives posing as a friend and then slowly grows into a monster that can destroy us. (Terry Gorski, Straight Talk About Addiction) My reflection: I was deluded by addiction. It entered our home … Continue reading

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“CAVE” FEELING

Originally posted on Webb Wisdom:
Sometimes we feel overwhelmed and crowded.  Emotionally it feels like we are being pulled at from every direction.  We know it’s time for a break from people and obligations when we begin wishing we were alone in a cave somewhere with…

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Hell

Originally posted on The Addict In My Basement:
In high school I read a story about three people from different stations in life being asked to describe their idea of hell. This was a blanket statement.  What is your idea…

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